Last night I was talking to my wife Shauna and was inspired to write this blog today. The topic of our conversation was why many people were unhappy with various aspects of their lives, but made absolutely no effort to change it.

It got me thinking “why if you can pinpoint what you don’t like, can’t you fix it” That seemed like a large part of the battle to me. If your car breaks down, the mechanic can do little to get you back on the road until he diagnoses the problem. Once he has done that he can take the necessary steps to solve the issue and get you on your merry way.

The issue that seems to hold many back is fear, or more accurately, fear based decision making. When you are making decisions based on fear you are constantly finding a “what if” or “I would BUT”. Many people complain about their jobs but when faced with the option of finding another one, fear rears it ugly head and you think to yourself, “I would like to but what if that job is worse?” or “If the new job doesn’t work out how will I pay my bills?” Ok, valid concerns but what if the new job turns out to be better? What if it opens doors and opportunity you never would have had at your current job?

It reminds me of a bodybuilder I knew some time ago. He began to get ready for a competition no less than 10 times in the time I knew him. Every year after he began his prep this fear and doubt consumed him and he eventually dropped out. When I asked him why it was always the same phrases about how he wanted to get “better” or “bigger” and just needed one more year and he would be ready. Every year came and went and he never to this day stepped on stage. His decision to drop out was always based on what he feared most. Failure. He never actually said it but he could not take the chance of being judged as less than someone else. “What would people think if I don’t win?” I am sure is a phrase that bounced around in his head year after year.

If there is something i want to get across to people with this blog it is this. If you consider something broke, fix it. If you are not making any progress in your training, fix it. Change something, anything. If you are not losing weight on your diet fix it. If you are unhappy with your career, fix it. I am not going to go into huge detail about how to fix these things as everyone’s situation is unique, but everyone’s problem has a common denominator. If you do nothing, change nothing, try nothing new, nothing will happen. Just to be clear whining about it is not the same as doing something about it.

Have a great weekend

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